Why I’m Asking for Help.

In April this year, I finally reached a milestone I had been working towards for years: my life-changing surgery to align my body with who I am.

It was a moment that was meant to bring closure to a long chapter of waiting, saving and fighting for my own dignity.

Within weeks of the operation, I developed serious complications. I experienced necrosis (tissue death) in a sensitive area and have been dealing with ongoing issues with my urethra ever since.

These complications have not only caused functional problems, but have also left me with a significant loss of sensation and the ability to experience pleasure – something that deeply affects my emotional and intimate wellbeing.

Today, I’m not in constant physical pain – but I do live with a deep emotional pain every single day: the grief for what I’ve lost, the anxiety about my body, and the sense that something so personal and important has been taken from me.

I’ve now been assessed and told that I need complex urethral revision surgery – a procedure that will repair the damage, restore proper function, and give me the best possible chance of regaining feeling and confidence.

I have an NHS referral to a urologist, but the waiting list is long – potentially years before I am treated.

I cannot safely or emotionally sustain this situation for that long. It’s affecting my mental health, my ability to work, my relationships, and my overall quality of life.

That’s why I’ve been given a quote for private surgery: £11,635 in total. This covers the hospital, surgeon, anaesthetist, and follow-up care.

Some people have asked if I could go back to the original clinic in Turkey for a revision. Sadly, that isn’t possible.

My aftercare experience there was extremely poor – responses were delayed, my concerns weren’t taken seriously, and I was left to manage serious complications largely on my own.

I don’t have the trust or confidence to put my health in their hands again, and the risk of repeating that experience is too great.

I’m currently unable to access any form of credit, which means I can’t spread the cost over time or take out a loan.

That leaves me with two options:

• Save for years (which would mean living with this emotional pain, functional loss, and risk the whole time), or
• Ask for help from my friends, family, and the wider community so I can get this done safely and as soon as possible.

Crowdfunding isn’t something I take lightly. I know times are tough for many people right now. But every single donation – whether it’s £5 or £500 – will get me closer to being able to book this surgery.

Even if you can’t donate, sharing this appeal with your network could connect me with someone who can.

Your contribution isn’t just helping to cover a bill – it’s giving me the chance to live without the constant emotional weight of these complications, to regain a vital part of my identity, and to restore the physical and emotional connection to my own body.

If you’d like to support me, you can donate via my https://gofund.me/846d2893 or share the campaign.

I’ll be posting regular updates there so you can follow my progress, from fundraising milestones to surgery recovery.

Thank you for reading my story, for caring, and for being part of my journey to reclaiming the life I’ve been working towards for so long.

With love and gratitude,

Ami 💜